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We did decide to get married, though we agreed it was more about tradition and satisfying her parents. So glad you liked it!! Did getting married actually appease her parents or did they just move on to the next life changing decision they wanted you to make kids? I can report back on my findings….
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I knew I wanted to be together for the rest of my life, so if putting a label to it helped make it a reality I was open to it. Question everything! And what you did makes total sense — it was an intentional choice. Glad you liked it! Obuously, you know where I landed on the to-get-married thing, but there is definitely a LOT of awful history that goes along with marriage and it is absolutely not the one way to measure commitment.
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Being happy alone is way better than miserable with a jerk when you settle kady just anyone! After several years of being with a wonderful partner who was the best fit for me, and knowing that marriage was important to him, I was willing to take the step to consider whether marriage would be good for me.
Considering I took over all our finances and grew them exponentially, it worked out well for both of us. I think it would be good, for sensible people who want to, to be able to choose marriage and reform what it means and stands for.
So glad you maried able to find something that works well for you! What benefits would I, as a high-earning woman, accrue in getting married? Not many.
Plus the idea of a wedding seemed more lookint than enjoyable. That said, we got married because we both knew we wanted to raise children together with one mmarried both of us at various times acting as stay at home parents, which means at times relying on the other person financially. It sounds like you took a very logical approach to marriage and did what works for you.
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But now we are closer than ever. Maybe this is tapping into my own personal insecurities, but there is something intangible about tieing the knot that is hard to describe. I agree that marriage ultimately is just a sheet of paper. I hate that about marriage. What I would do differently is probably not marry as quickly as I did, lookking learn more about myself. So glad you liked it! Congratulations on 14 years of marriage!
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I think it is more about the idea that two people come to terms with the idea that they will do what they can to make the partnership work. Relationships are tough, and I would have a hard time if I thought the slightest trouble would cause my partner to want to book it. To me, marriage is about communicating that commitment. But with that said, I think there are many people who are just as committed and decide not to tie the not.
I think adding kids to the mix makes this type of commitment more important. Weddings, however, are a whole other thing!
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The evidence is not conclusive but again it makes me wonder if he did indeed cast a spell upon you. You are married. Your marriage vows tell you what to do!
You must swme that your interest in this man is sinful. Tell him so. No more contacts. Renew a living relationship with your husband. Rekindle the flame! Celebrate what God gave you. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist. I dont think there is one married couple that hasnt had to deal with lust looking then questioned there love for their spouse….
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I have spoken the woman as well as my husband but nothing seems to help as neither will stop until they are properly exposed or found out by the uncle. Why do people go out of their way to destroy other lives when they cannot have their way?
They tell each other that they belong to other people yet they are willing to continue this clandestine relationship as long as the uncle and the children never find out. There is no shame on either their part and as a wife, I have not decided to move on and be happy with my husband who does not see that there is something wrong with what they are doing.
Now everybody getting on her case right but what if the husband is not fulfilling ffor duties at home and in bed…. You are a diva alright. I know where you are coming from. The second part of your writing with such an advice is uncalled for. Your opinion in this case is unwarranted. This is not the purpose of this article and the type of advice the lady is looking for. I am certain that she knows very well all about sexual relationships, etc. She does not need that type of advice and coming from some of you.
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They should keep their filthy comments to themselves and out of this Website. They do nobody any good. This could happen to anyone, and she did say that she has not gone beyond talking.
Classic 7 year itch. There are 2 women that I know personally who have expressed such feelings towards me. I know they love their husbands but they are just infatuated. Fact is use your brain. Or just get a 1 shot and finish with that. You are also feeding this dude ego and embarassing yourself and your husband. Stop the nastiness. The married hairy bank in action, Married but looking for married lady in the same boat for material Married but looking for married lady in the same boat.
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My dear, you may feel this way, but you should only confess this to God. You made one mistake by confessing it to the man. You need to cut of talking to him daily. If you have a family your mind should be consumed with taking care of them especially your children. I am not telling you to be perfect, but if you feed those feelings you will do something that will devastate your family.
Be wise and stop those face book conversations. Can he give you financial security, can he take the place of a father? What are his moral principles? There is a lot at stake. I agree with you. They deviate from the subject and Married but looking for married lady in the same boat all sorts of unsolicited and unwarranted advice which I view as filthy ones.
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But I am aware that the devil seeks to deceive you and get you trapped. Stay strong girl. This is why those people who comment negatively should think of themselves and their future. We never know what may happen to us and what situation we will find ourselves in. Those who provide negative comments may very well one day find themselves even in a worst situation.
This will be their punishment. They should also consider their very Married but looking for married lady in the same boat family as also their children. Some of us may never experience what she experienced and also you. Nevertheless we never know what lies beyond for us in the future. This is why we must always be compassionate and offer concrete and decent advice.
Human nature is weak. Those who think they are strong are deceiving themselves. Ephesians 6: For this reason we looknig ever be compassionate and offer worthy and useful advice. I feel you … Good luck to you and stay strong! Millions of other women have been in your situation. Please, keep bat to yourself. I knew a man that was destroyed when his wife admitted while she was on her death bed dying, that she had an affair and that their youngest child was not his!
They had always had loooing wonderful marriage as far as he Married but looking for married lady in the same boat but she was a very beautiful woman and she was flattered by compliments of a much younger man. This turned all his love for her into very bad feelings and he treated his youngest child much differently.
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Stop playing with the readers here. Now have have tasted the forbidden fruit u cant seem to walk away so here u go blah blahing looking for support. My advice is, since you liked it so much then walk away from the marriage before it turns hostile. Good luck ih ur new man.
Hopefully he was serious about caring for you and not only wanted a piece of arse. The magic words describing what our human senses do to us, as they take control of our mind which is untrained and indisciplined.
In this case it is the senses of feel and see. Eyes and fleshly feelings coming together to conceive the sin of lust in the mind of this yound married woman. I saw his maybe gorgeous body with my eyes Marries just looking at him put all sorts thoughts in my mind, and my flesh started to experience feelings for him.
I know what Love is, and I cannot imagine myself in love with my husband of 6 years, and still thinking about another man when Lloking am in bed with him—say what! The apostle John tells us that the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eye is fot of the Father; it is of the world.
Human beings are moving about without Life, until they have accepted Jesus Christ as their Savior—God connecting to them through conscience and the power of His Holy Spirit. As human being we have a mind that is not trained or disciplined to respond to God ways—the ways of Love.
This mind can only respond to the command of our human senses. Through the commands of our human senses into our minds Satan, steals, kill, and destroy us, as he influences us to remain disconnected from God, by feeding us with vanity, making us think that we are satisfied. Only that this safisfaction does not last for too long. When we become connected to God through conscience, His Holy Spirit takes control of our lookiny from there, that is how our carnal mind goes into it renewing state, teaching marrird how to know—to discern— the path of the command that enters our mind, that we might accept or deny that command.
Word are very powerful. God used words to create heaven and earth. Before He formed Adam, He said the words: Married but looking for married lady in the same boat prayed and 5 loaves and 2 small fish was enough to feed more than people and there was 12 baskets left over. He said to the open tomb of the dead man: Lazarus come forth! And the man walked out of his grave. God wants us, human beings, to do the same thing—to speak to Him or to speak against Satan in His name, but we must reconnect to Him by our faith, through conscience.
If that young lady had a mind that was in its renewing state—meaning if she was connected to God through her conscience, whether she loves her husband or not, she would not be faced with this dilemma, which she is facing right now.
As human beings we need to be seriously concerned about our state of mind. Because if we are not concerned, there is nothing God can do and Satan will use Married couples looking sex orgy bondage carnal minds against.
People in Dominica, if you do not understand what I am saying here, just look at the political turmoil that we are facing today. All of it is the work of Satan, because those in question do not know that they are giving complete charge of the situations in their lives.
But God is watching—Satan cannot win! Whether we are priest, bishop, pastor, preadher, or the greatest community leader the majority of us are simply functioning by the control of our human senses, into our untrained and indiscipline minds, with no awareness that the things we do, we are ghe to bring us to our own destructive fate.
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If you read carefully you will notice that I work for God Almighty. So by His Will I have the time, the wisdom, the revelation, and the strength to do Lookng work. What you need to do now, is take the little time that you have and learn from my writing; because my message is not mine, but it is through me from the Man, Himself, by the power of His Holy Spirit. His name is Jesus Christ.
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A truth is spoken once and its stands forever. That is the way of what I write. I've never planned on birthing my own children, since adolescence I knew I wanted to marry in my mid 40's and perhaps adopt one or two yr olds because nobody wants them, and so they become forgotten lesser advantaged lesser contributors to society through no fault of their own.
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Edited on February 3, at Mirage Send a private message. Shaybez Send a private message. Almost forty, single, never been tthe serious relationship, Love the Lord! All of my friends are married an people I grew up are married! Txs infoplease. Thanks for the encouragement! I am not a man. I am older than your 45 year old friend.
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Smelly socks? Never met any person whose socks do not smell. Most every man I have ever dated snores. I am a realist when it comes to what type of man would love and appreciate me and what type of man I would love and appreciate enough to marry. I often wonder if there is "something about me" that I am not married.
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I don't really think it is gender specific. I do think there are certain people who have built a brick wall around themselves men and women and they really don't want to let anyone in. That is another story altogether. And these individuals may actually be married. I am a year-old woman, and I've never been married.
I don't know why I've never been married. Was I lookinf to do something to make marriage happen? Have they made it mandatory? If so, oopsie. My bad. If someone would be so kind as to tell me what I need to do to make marriage transpire, I will get right on the project.
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Happiness is not being at someones mercy also. No I don't want to compromise. Beek87 Send a private message. Herd mentality will Married but looking for married lady in the same boat justify your beliefs, no matter how wrong they are. Fictional reality ppl who are alone past their prime tell themselves: Bkt alone that long without finding someone to build a life with never made them stronger, not one of them. They were more likely to appear to be true narcissists. Being alone that long, causes you fkr become more selfish.
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Not just the romantic ones. Think of familial interactions, Married but looking for married lady in the same boat and working relationships. Why bother with those type of relationships either when they require work as well? Ppl who are married with kids have time to do that too.
Housewives seeking sex tonight Maurepas Louisiana turned 30 this year. Leanne63 Send a private message. I don't believe that the institution of marriage is for everyone. It is possible to have a fulfilling relationship with a man that can last longer than most of today'so averages marriages 5yrs without having a piece of paper to say so.
If two people want to commit their lives to one another or even a portion of their lives together without the fear of the word divorce then they should not be damned for doing so. Times have changed, my friend. The status of defining a relationship based on societal "norms" or long standing religious deeds are long gone.
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If those people do not wish to marry then no looling or woman should look at them any differently than a couple who has taken vows before a regions entity of judge magistrate. A commitment of marriage does not a successful marriage make. The people in the relationship make the relationship work Because most women have fantastically unrealistic expectations of Men and relationships.
Is there a Groom magazine? Enough said. I'm 61 soon to be I am SWMretired librarian. I don't know if there is ever a great time to marry.
I do know your odds of marriage after 40 for both sexes are very low. In my case I quit dating at I don't miss it, but I always believed I'd find someone I could love and marry. Today I know you must exert great effort in your search for a spouse. The more educated and Married but looking for married lady in the same boat a woman is, the less likely she will marry.
You can delay marriage and many people do these days, but you run the risk of never getting hitched. In my case I got ulcerative colitis at age 20, fought it for 36 yrs. It forced me to retire.
Dating was always a nightmare for me, first date at 35, four more after that, and I stopped trying. The dating pool was pretty awful from 35 on. Read the book Marry Him by Lori Gottlieb. Women in the 40 plus range have limited choices left. Remember men die bbut than women. As both groups age up, you have fewer men alive. I tried Match. I had women view my profile, On contacted 40, 10 responded, and none even wanted to meet for coffee.
These are women 50 plus--like they have a ton of guys lined up? I know now had I been ready for marriage earlier in life, I would have sqme on it.
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In my 30s I had no idea where to meet good prospects. After high school and college, you don't find much out there unless you're rich, attractive, or have high status. I had none of that, and one woman told me years ago" you're a nice guy, but you're not what women are looking for today --you don't have what they want" How right she was. My parents never encouraged me to marry, four of my siblings did. I will always feel I could have made a great spouse, but I just started too late.
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Jodi Send a private message. Anyhow, I personally know of 2 siblings nearing 40 who have never married or had children. The guy is my 'boyfriend' whom I've had a relationship with for 10 years but I Adult looking sex Grand marais Michigan 49839 no interest in marriage.
I am divorced with 3 kids. Although he has offered numerous times for us to marry, I am perfectly content with how things are. I was married at 28, for 7 years.
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I met my boyfriend when he was in his late 20'shad never even had a real relationship or ,ady for that matter. I thought he was a little odd because of it. His sister, who is turning 39 soon, has never had a serious relationship, no marriage no kids. I always thought that was strange too.
Plus, when their Mom died, 6 years ago, she went from still living at home with Mom to moving in with her brother. She has never lived on her own and yes, she can financially afford to! The two of them seemed so odd to me. How could two siblings have never been married or had children by their very late 30's?! Married but looking for married lady in the same boat what though, it's because my boyfriend is odd, that I am happy to have found him!
He kind of thinks like a naive boy and believes completely in monogamy and NEVER in my life have I ever met anyone who were so passionate about that. I 14098 girl sex 14098, if he were more like most people, that the qualities that make him so odd and special, just wouldn't be there within him. It may be similar with his sister too. Their own father left them for another woman when my boyfriend was 2 years old and his sister just newly born.
So they watched Mom struggled and they learned to value faithfulness above all else What I'm saying is, Gillingham guy seeking blk woman what?! So you haven't been married or had kids yet.
Maybe it's because you are happier alone than taking a chance on another person when you know it's hard to trust and really connect with others the way you want to.
But if you look a little harder because you decide you do want to find someone, believe it, there are others out there like me who will appreciate your uniqueness! As far as kids I love mine of course, but honestly my whole life or what's been left of it has been sacrificed for them. Most times I'm ok with it but sometimes, I really wonder who I would have been or what other life I may have lived instead.
Keep your friendships close. They'll carry Married but looking for married lady in the same boat through. I would like advice please. I met him almost 15 years ago and he proposed a year agothen 4 months before we were due to get marriedhe said it was over. He wasn't happy. Fast forward to now and its the best decision he has made but tonight he told me he has been seeing someone for the last couple of months I am really pleased for him but not sure how i feel about myself now.
I had a look at her profile and she looks the opposite of me. A bit plastic fantastic. And she has two kids. We have one I don't want back with him but tonight our son wanted to stay with him but he did say he could but would " have to cancel plans". Our son came home with me I wasn't entirely happy with that response but maybe I am being Married but looking for married lady in the same boat as our son usually lives with me through the week I am in my 40s and not keen on using dating apps so how do I get back out there even just to meet new friends.
Not in any hurry to start a long term relationship but even to try a date I feel very lost just now Sorry if i have hijacked your chat but i just needed to ask Thanks. Fluffybunnies Send a private message. I know the question is a few years old but I still feel compelled to respond.
The reason some women haven't married or won't marry differs from one person to the next. What your friend said doesn't mean she is flawed. It just means that she doesn't feel that a man is needed to have a complete life. Let's not forget that life gets busy. Work, family, friends and interests take Married but looking for married lady in the same boat a lot of time and, yes, looking after yourself, is also a priority.
I am a firm believer that if the right person had come along at some point that would have changed but why change for the wrong person? I'm 45 myself and I would like to get married and don't believe I am picky but I"m not just going to marry anyone for the sake of getting married. Women and men are no longer stuck in stereotypical familial roles. Which means that being part of a couple is no longer a necessity for a fulfilling, happy life.
Jessica Send a private message. Omf, the females in my husbands family are bitter old maids lmao. PTriz Send a private message. I turned 40 this year. Never married, no children, and no "near misses" or anything close. Reading this post sounds like most women have almost been married, but that's not the case.
I know in my own case, my faith drives a lot of what I have always looked for in a relationship, so I'm not out there just yanking every Married but looking for married lady in the same boat without a ring. So most of the time, I'm just not "looking", even though I do want a partner. Not sure if Married but looking for married lady in the same boat is interpreted as Married but looking for married lady in the same boat or disinterest. CheezyNoggin Send a private message.
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Ive been single my whole life and not by choice let me tell you. I was never even able to get a foot in the door because I am stunningly unattractive first off. Even in childhood I was not even close to objectively cute. Secondly I have no social skills. I am awkward, dont know what to say and when Im nervous I tend to stutter and blush and sweat. I am ok one-on-one with people but even with 2 people, let alone a group, forget it. So not only am I exceptionally ugly but Im weird and have no confidence.
I dont hold the same social and political views, interests or participate in acceptable pastimes as people in my universe here. I hate reality TV and socializing in bars and I dont have kids so I dont fit in those ways either. Im just an odd duck all around. Things that are Clarksville 26 hookup to me are either sneered at or are a non issue subject of non interest to others.
Ive never been asked out by a man. Never had school boyfriends, never had college boyfriends, never had adult dates. Ive had one night stands in my 20s but nothing past that.
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The trite advice youll find someone when you stop looking. Itll happen when you least expect it, is a load of Marrried know what.
Many long stretches I had given up and quit looking. The current stretch has bridged the last several years. Still nothing. Men I try to to talk to have always run away. Those I have been set up with on blind dates excuse themselves or cut it short and I never have hear from them again. Im resigned Ill die alone. Most people do anyway.
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Edited on January 5, at I will be 49 in a few months and Marrird married. My first relationship was 7 years, he met the woman he decided to marry while Married but looking for married lady in the same boat were dating.
My next relationship was 3 years, he was hung up on an ex and, though we lived together, he went home nut see what might happen. A few weeks later he called me wanting to come back.
At that point, I had met someone else. Relationship number 3 only lasted a year before he decided to move to another state. At that point, I had decided not to date for awhile and focus on career.
I moved to another city for a job. A few years in, I dated a guy I really liked. After we dated a few months, I found out he had an affair with a married friend before we metI gave that a chance, but it turned out he was not willing to be faithful. He also had a drinking marrier I could not tolerate. I dated a variety of great and not so great guys for several years, but no one was a fit. I then met another man, who I was in love with, but after a year I discovered he had issues with fidelity as well.
We had an on and off mostly off relationship for 8 years. During that time, there was a 2 year period where I met another man and exclusively dated him. Moved to another city to live with him, upon my arrival he lost his job. We stuck together I paid all the billsuntil he got a job in another city. We continued to live together, spending alternate Hot wife seeking nsa Biloxi Mississippi together.
Then while we were in a trip, I discovered something disagreeable to me. He had seen a massage therapist, and it was the happy ending kind.
Having been bad situations before, I ended it immediately. I have a good job, stable career, and no children because the men I dated were looking for something more than a relationship with me. My picker could be broken.
I am sure many will read this and say there must be something wrong with me. Am I defective? Probably not as much as men have stereotyped me to be. No one is perfect, and relationships all require compromise. Or that I am imperfect and have tried to make it work with imperfect people? I still hope that will change, but being older presents fewer opportunities than being young. Edited on March 26, at Angela Send a private message. Not even in the same ballpark for me.
I refuse to settle on being with someone who loo,ing me. I'll be 40 this Nov. I'm totally open to being with someone again as long as they have the same values and integrity as I do. That simple. Married but looking for married lady in the same boat Send a private message.
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Any man that I dated who was over age 40 and never married usually had some kind of serious flaw. It most cases it was selfishness, extreme immaturity, very poor social skills or just being losers at life.
Those types always said they just never wanted to get married but it was often the case that nobody would want to be their spouses anyway. By your "logic," a man who has been married multiple times is a "better catch.
We don't you one bit of explanation or justification. Married but looking for married lady in the same boat women marriage means giving up virtually everything in exchange for financial support. Not a fair trade. I am merely speaking of my personal experience rather than making a generalization. What do you mean 'Give up everything in exchange for financial support?
My husband was a good provider however due to health problems he is no longer the provider. You just roll with it. But if you prefer "pretend children" with 4 legs and no kids or grandkids to love suit yourself. Not everyone wants a family. I don't Single seeking real sex New York City kids. Most men want kids so I've ended up alone with a great life but that was the cost of my Married but looking for married lady in the same boat.
Laura Send a private message. You sound like my twin! In my case, it's just never made sense enough to marry. I would like to, but only to the right person.
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I don't think I am crazy picky, but there does need to be a connection. When it's confusing is where everything seems to match up and then it falls apart. Married but looking for married lady in the same boat I was doing something completely nuts, that would make sense, but I really don't think I am.
I think there is a huge difference between what people think they want, and they reality of that thing when they find it, and it scares them to death. At that point, I just move on.
Conversion doesn't work, and it's a huge waste of Housewives looking sex tonight Hull Iowa 51239. Woman up cupcake! You are not single, so you have no clue.
Single women are never alone, there is usually some date, some family member or some friend to see. Being married to Mr. Wrong is no picnic, and you are generally alone when you are in the same room with him. Completely agree, only I have no cat because I am so busy travelling and having a life I can't keep a plant alive Money and a great body.
Single woman over 40 with great careers are in great shape, travel the world, speak three languages, have money and property.
Most women don't seem to realize that men don't care about your career, money, accomplishments. Most successful guys want youth and beauty Enjoy dying alone, Susan.
Your house stinking of cat litter while the stench of your own bloated dead body slowly alerts the neighbors. Enjoy "peeling your tiny chile" to some Married but looking for married lady in the same boat porn in your studio apartment that stinks of cheap canned beer, stale farts, stale cigarette smoke, and bacon grease. Edited on March 6, at I'm in my 30s and happily married. Good try, though. This is very true.
I am not nearly as educated as my husband is though I have completed college. He is 8 years my senior. Yes, here here! This sounds like me IMO, if they say they don't want to ever marry, then they probably don't.
Honestly I think the drive for a partner spurs growth in people, and Married but looking for married lady in the same boat those who don't desire one may tend to become stunted. I won't date an older man unless he explicitly expresses a desire to marry Man seeking women in ny.
Local perfect girls than later. In Women seeking casual sex Kenton Vale to men who are divorced Just sayin' My husband was 40 when I met him, he had never been married nor had kids and is a wonderful man. Your judgment is bias at best, maybe the MEN you met were "losers", sounds like you're very narrow minded about men.
You go girl! A part of me would like to be happily married one day, but let's Married but looking for married lady in the same boat it, there aren't a lot of marriage-material out there these day, which is why I remain single. Besides, as a single woman, I can do what I want, when I want, without having to be accountable to anyone else! I know women like us tend to get a bad rap for being single especially over 40but no one says anything to men about it, especially since a lot of them spent the first half of adulthood doing just what we're doing now I think its better to remain single than to end up divorced and the guy takes your assets, home etc.
Some people talk about marriage like its their biggest accomplishment or something. Some people are lucky to meet someone nice and some aren't and it doesn't mean we are gay,flawed or crazy. I know a lot of married people who are crazy nuts. Another reason might be that these men ran into bitter women like you. I imagine these men wanted to eventually get married, just not to you. See how those generalizations can go both ways? That's okay. My husband married me and it's working out well.
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In my case you're right my friend. I'm 61 now, and my first date Indian fucking Missouri at I had four more after that.
I never learned dating or social skills early. As you might guess I never had a girlfriend either. I grew up feeling very Married but looking for married lady in the same boat and unlovable. I never learned how to get past that. At my age it really doesn't matter anymore. I can't imagine dating now. It just would be a disappointing endeavor. I only wish now someone had helped me learn what I needed to pursue a relationship and build a life with a partner.
I did realize I probably would do poorly in marriage as I was, so I decided early never to go there. It was probably best for all that I did. Please stay single! Your the very reason why the dating pool today is so bad. Married for nearly 8 years now.
Twenty-one percent of married men and between 10 and 15 percent of I reached out on Craigslist, to simply have someone in the same boat to talk to. I didn't care if it was a man or woman; I wasn't looking to have an affair. I am a young married lady in my 30's and has been married. But we're not going to have children, we earn about the same income so get married in a really bad situation, but that's hardly a pro for marriage, For example, married women couldn't even have a line of credit without . And there are worse things in life than looking like a wealthy Victorian couple.
LOL You resurrected an old thread just to say this? Looking feel sorry for you. In the end, these two have not met the right person to marry. You're reasoning is illogic to me. This reply was removed by a moderator. Married women at young age become broken at later age.